Leadership Nudge® 389 – Align Activity to Control

June 8, 2022by Sandy Wilmer

Leaders focus their energy on things within their control. Here’s David with some examples.


Hey, here’s the formula for having a happy life and getting what you want.  

It’s aligning where you spend your energy to the things that are within your control. For example, out here, people spend a lot of energy on things like (in particular) controlling other people, which they really can’t control. “Oh, well, you need to speak up” . . . “You need to be more assertive” . . .  “You need to listen to me.” Okay – you can’t control that.  

So it’s a lot of frustration over here. People then don’t control what they could control, which is their own response and reaction and the language that they have in a situation.  

Someone comes up and says, “Well, I think you’re wrong.”  

“Well, why do you think that?” 

Well, you’re not controlling that – you’re just reacting.  

So when you control the things that are within . . . when you put your energy into things within your control, like your own language . .  . Like, say, “Okay, I’m gonna get up when the alarm goes off, not hit snooze” – that’s within your control. And when it’s aligned to what you’re trying to get in life, then you’re gonna have success in life. 

I’m David Marquet. That’s your Leadership Nudge. 

Sandy Wilmer

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